Wednesday, February 18, 2009

Bertha and Me

Bertha called earlier this week. There’s a faculty meeting in Castries on Sunday. “Are you going?” she said. I told her I was and we made arrangements to meet at the bus stop to ride in together. She is a professor I met at Monroe College; she lives in the same village as I do. Her husband is the Pentecostal Preacher. I hope you can stand yet another bus story. I love bus rides because they give me time to meet people, reflect on being here and let's face it - being from California, bus rides aren't something I am used to doing!


Bertha called and said, “Where are you?” I told her I was just leaving my house for the five minute walk. She was worried about getting there on time and I realized my tardiness was contributing to her anxiety so I quickly locked my door and ran down the stairs. Elizabeth shouted to me just as I reached the street. I went back and talked to her for a couple of minutes. She wants to go into my house and look at the light bulbs. They are going to change them to energy saving bulbs; it’s something that some people in the village are focusing on and together they will get a better deal on the expensive bulbs. This is a little surprising to me as people are not aware of environmental issues here. Thinking about it, they are more than likely focusing on the expensive electric bills we are faced with each month. I tell her she is welcome to use her key as I run down the road.


I turn the corner and there is a young man carrying some bags. He recognizes me, but I can’t place him. I greet him with the usual “are you ok?”. In Saint Lucia that means “How are you?” It’s just a greeting not intended for an honest answer. He stops and says yes, he’s ok, but it is a challenging day for him. We agree that life is full of challenges and it’s those challenges that allow us to grow. The conversation is turning a bit deep when a jeep drives up. Bertha sticks her head out the window and says, “Get in; my friend will take us to the bus stop.” I say farewell to my friend and promise myself that I’ll figure out who he is and discover his name. I get into the back seat for the two minute ride up the road. Saint Lucians, by their own admission, don’t like to walk.


We waited at the bus stop under the shade and shelter of the bus stop for only fifteen minutes; somewhat of a miracle on a Sunday morning. Maybe this has something to do with Bertha, a Pentecostal Preacher’s wife. We got in the bus and were on our way. A man is waiting for a bus at the next village and the driver stops. I look at the window and the man is literally running while taking large leaping jumps into the air while crossing the street and heading for the bus. I’m surprised when he does not leap onto the hood and declare himself King of the Passengers. He has hair wrapped in a white cloth indicating he has long Rasta braids. He is wearing a long sleeved dress white shirt and a pair of jeans. He is happy. I hear Bertha sign and say “ah oh”. For lack of a better name, I will call him Rasta Man.


Rasta Man sits in the empty seat in front of us and the bus driver pulls out and continues up the two lane highway. Rasta Man tries to make conversation, but clearly, those on the bus are uncomfortable. I see many of them glance at me and I’m wondering if I am a contributor to their discomfort. Do they think I would judge Rasta Man? Are they embarrassed because I’m an outsider? Do they think I feel uncomfortable? Unsafe?


We stop for another passenger, a well dressed young woman. She takes a seat next to me and I make some casual conversation. She is very friendly. Rasta Man is becoming irritated that no one is having fun with him. He is becoming agitated. The bus is quiet, except for the continuing diatribe of Rasta Man. Then I suddenly hear him say “Stopping Driver”. The driver stops and Rasta Man jumps out of the bus and leaps to the other side of the street. I declare, “I just love interesting bus rides”. Everyone on the bus is now laughing and they begin an animated conversation. I feel like I’ve known these passengers my whole life. After all, we just had an experience together.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

so did the other passengers not like rasta man?

Karen's Planet said...

I think they were glad to see him get off the bus. He made them feel uncomfortable; I think they found my reaction to it funny.

Barbara said...

Karen, Loved your post on Rasta Man. Your response was PRICELESS! It reminded me of an incident I had years ago. It will take up some space, and as you know my writing is sometimes corny and hoakey, but here's a little true story for you:

An unkempt man dressed with multi-colored shredded ribbons all over his suit and hat came into the restaurant where my husband Rubik and I were eating. The man scanned the restaurant patrons, for what was probably a friendly face, and then headed toward our area. . You could have heard a pin drop as he made his way through the dining room.

He slowly came to rest at our table, looked me in the eyes, and softly asked if I was finished with my dinner. I politely said yes, although I had barely started my meal. He proceeded to empty my plate of all it's food. He then took the napkins and the bread and butter from the basket and placed it neatly in a plastic bag he had just pulled out of his jacket pocket.

While watching the man carefully wrap up what was to be his next meal I was silently thanking my husband for putting his hand on mine under the table--I instinctively knew what he meant by this gesture: Be calm and polite and let this man humble himself no further.

The man graciously thanked me and slowly, and with dignity, left the restaurant. He never addressed my husband or anyone else sitting there.

In a hushed and silent room of diners and waiters my husband looked up and said: The gentleman was hungry. That is not an embarrassing place to be--but it's a hard place to be; and we should all leave it at that.

Everyone, in agreement and unison shook their heads in positive agreement then simultaneously went back to eating their dinners. We all knew we experienced a profound lesson in humility.

This story took place around 1970 and I will never forget the incident. I will always be humbled by that man's dignity and I will always admire my husband for his empathy and composure.

Remarkably I have thought of this event often in my life. I have always wondered what happened to him. It would be so nice to believe that someone out there found him, saw his sweetness and kept him because he was so lost.

Isn't it funny how these little slice of life events replay themselves as a constant reminder to keep us grounded.

For over thirty years I have worried about this man and I don't even know if he's still alive. Well, dead or alive I'm still wishing good things for him.

Thanks for the reminder Island Girl!
BTW your reaction was priceless! xoxo bb

Karen's Planet said...

I love your story and your husband was so kind in his reaction. His reaction is usually the one, after reflection, we wish we would have done...but he did!

Barbara said...

Thanks. And you're right on the hindsight Karen--I still haven't got that down yet. However, despite all his faults, Rubik never made fun of anyone and was always caring with those down on their luck.

Also, the next time I send you a story that long I need to proof-read it.

BTW, a pic of Rasta Man would be priceless, so keep a camera eye out for him. ;-)